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Body positivity is a huge part of mental health. So, today I thought I’d share how I’ve been affected by body positivity.

I never had an issue with my looks until I was late into my teens. If I could pinpoint one moment that started my body issues I would say when my partner at the time told me I needed to lose weight off my stomach. Now at this point, I was 5ft 3″ (161 cm) and 7 stone (44km). The smallest I’ve ever been. So much that I often got comments and questions about me being anorexic. So as you can imagine that did wonders for my self-confidence. I think this was one of the starting points as to how uncomfortable I now feel in my appearance.

I have over the years put on weight for a number of different reasons. Over the past year and a half, I have been working seriously on getting myself back in shape but that is taking time. I’m also extremely self-conscious about both my legs and the top of my arms.

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I couldn’t tell you where either of these issues came from, but the issues with my legs were there when I was a teenager. So much so that through my high school life I refused to wear a skirt, even in the middle of summer. I chose to boil in horrendous trouser rather than have my legs out even with tights on.

I’m still getting comfortable going out without tights on. (I got over the skirt thing when I realised no trousers will ever fit me!) But I’m still conscious about how my legs look. Β Because I’m so pale I end up with red marks on them, I know I’m the only one who probably notices or cares but I’m still wary. I am pushing myself whenever it’s warm to go out without tights.

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The same is said with my arms, I have really bad dry skin often with patches of redness. I always cover up my shoulders with a jacket or cardigan.

With that in mind, Conor and I went to the beach the other day and I liked what I was wearing so I enlisted him as my photographer. I wanted to try and embrace myself, especially the parts of myself I’m not 100% comfortable with.

This is how I’m attempting to overcome my body confidence issues. It’s not going to be easy but with work, I’ll get there. My first step was taking these photos, for most of them I kept my jacket on covering my shoulders but I made sure to get a few without it.

I’m not 100% happy with how I look in this photo but I think it’s important to share it.

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To continue this idea of body positivity I’m starting a new blog series beginning next Wednesday. The past few weeks I’ve enjoyed creating different outfits and going out and taking photos with them. So, I’m going to do a weekly post to showcase these images. It’s encouraging me to think more about my wardrobe. (I need to reduce what I have in there)

Also to embrace myself, become more body confident and get more comfortable in front of the camera. You can see the first post here.

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Is this series something you would be interested in? I’m no fashion expert it’s just something I’m enjoying.

This was a bit of a different post but thank you for reading. Do you have any advice for someone struggling with body confidence? If so I’d love to know in the comments below.

24 Thoughts on “My Body Positivity Journey ~ Mental Health Awareness”

  • Aww, I love this! Well done, you! I went out without tights on the other day and I felt amazing. It’s a rare occurrence but it’s nice when I have the courage to do it.

    For what it’s worth, your legs look fabulous in those pictures, and you look so happy! That was the first thing I noticed, before any physical attributes. They instantly made me smile.

    I’d definitely be interested in the new series you’re planning, and I can’t wait to read it.

    Ruth |

  • It’s always nice when you get a victory like that even if it’s a small one πŸ™‚

    Thanks, I was trying to just let go and not think too much. I know I’m the only one who pays enough attention to see what I think is wrong with them!

    Yay! At least I’ll have one reader πŸ™‚ I’ve not got to plan it out properly.

    Thanks for reading xx

  • Good on you. It’s crazy they said you should lose weight especially as you sound like you really didn’t need to. Glad to hear you are trying to overcome body confidence issue. I think you look great as you are and have nothing to be worried about xxx

    • Thank you πŸ™‚ as I said I’ve gained weight since then, but I think that conversation planted the first seed of doubt in my confidence. But yes I’m getting happier in myself all the time πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • You look amazing, but I totally had that moment in my teens too, when my boyfriend at the time told me he much preferred me ‘before’, when I was a size 10 rather than a size 12. Sadly, we tend to listen to the people who have power over us at vulnerable times in our lives and what they say sticks with us!

    • Thank you πŸ™‚
      So true! I wish I could go back and change how I responded but all I can do now is look to the future and work on how we perceive ourselves rather than how other people see us!
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • this is amazing, one step at a time. It is an area that I am focusing a lot on at the moment, as I have been a variety of sizes but not been happy with how I look at any size. So loving my body, whatever it looks like, is so important

    • That’s what I’m trying to do πŸ™‚ for so long I was thinking I need to eat this way and exercise to lose weight. Now I approach it as I exercise and eat better because I enjoy it and want to look after myself πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

    • Thank, I’m looking forward to putting it all together. Hitting two birds with one stone creating a series and sorting through my wardrobe aha.
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • I have struggled with body confidence my whole life. If I could give any advice it would be take small steps. Start small. Don’t put the unrealistic expectation on yourself that you can change your mindset overnight. It takes work but eventually your confidence will grow and you’ll begin to embrace yourself for all you are!
    The person most deserving of your love is yourself!

    Louisa |

    • I shall try that πŸ™‚ I can imagine it takes time considering how long it took for me to just wear a skirt but I will get there πŸ™‚ My next plan is to sort out my wardrobe so no matter how I feel I look in terms of shape/size I always feel good about what I’m wearing πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • I have a similar story to you, I spent so many years in tights until one day (after tearing a good few pairs in the space of an hour) I just gave it. Its a long process but you’re right – taking and posting these photos is a huge step and something you should be proud of! You look so beautiful! Xx

    • I think my first time was when I’d not put tights on yet and my partner at the time basically dragged me out the door without them. It was rather horrible but it wasn’t quite as bad as I thought it would be. And I’ve gotten more confident since then.
      Thanks πŸ™‚ it was all good fun.
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • I think this is a step in the right direction sharing and implementing it, you look lovely in that skirt and string top

    • Thank you πŸ™‚ I was worried about posting it but I’m glad I did πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • Your pictures in this post just ooze confidence and rightfully so, because you look absolutely incredible! It’s important to remember that body positivity isn’t linear and there will be ups and downs throughout life, but having someone by your side that supports you and will take candids on the beach will make the journey a hell of a lot easier.. πŸ™Š

    • Thank you πŸ™‚ that means a lot. I shall, I’ve been in a weird place lately because I’ve done so well losing weight but I still don’t feel like where I should be and I’m having daily ups and downs on how I feel about myself.
      It does, he’s a good’un I’m not sure it’s quite sunk in that he’s now my designated photographer for the blog haha.
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

  • I wish you all the best with this journey. I’m a huge body positive activist and really believe that we all need to see more beauty in ourselves and cast aside societies expectations that we need to all look a certain way!
    C x

    • Thank you! I agree I’m getting there, I believe that too it’s just taking me a while to change my thinking!
      Thanks for reading
      Menna x

    • Thank you πŸ™‚ It’s been such fun creating the posts so far. I think it came from a good place just didn’t have the desired effect. It’s in the past now however and I’m making strides to get past it.
      Thanks for reading.
      Menna x

    • Thank you. I used to like being in front of the camera when I was younger and I’m trying to get more comfortable now!
      Thank you for reading
      Menna x

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